A lot of ppl, including some married ppl I know (AHEM Henry) consider Valentines Day a hallmark holiday and a singles' awareness day. Let's just get real for a second-1. What holiday does hallmark (and any other business) NOT use to their advantage? 2. If you are single, and you and the outside world are not aware of it the other 364.25 days a year, then that's when you REALLY have something to worry about.
I'm not saying it doesn't stink for ppl to be without significant others on days set up to make ppl appreciate the people they are dating or romantically involved with in some other way. But cry me a river ppl. I go to school over an hour away from my boyfriend and have not seen him on one valentines day or one of his birthdays since I started college. Yeah, yeah "You have a boyfriend, what are you complaining about?" That's the point. I'm not. I love seeing Tom, and it stinks not seeing him all the time, but you know what-it's "you don't go to school with your significant other awareness day" for me 5 days a week and 9 months a year. I see couples holding hands, girls leaving to go hang out at their boyfriends, sorority sisters attending datenights in the middle of the week....you get the idea. I don't do those things outside of Friday nights, Saturdays, and Sundays until around 5. And I'm still alive.
I consider myself blessed to be happy where I am in school. In fact, I am realllly grateful that Tom is ONLY a little over an hour away and that I DO get to see him every weekend and that he WANTS to call me during the week and see me on the weekends. I'm not saying I am perfect, I've never complained, I don't miss Tom, or that you should aspire to being just like me. I'm just saying that if your life stinks right now because you are single, it's most likely because you aren't content with something in your life. And you need to figure out what that is and fix it before you get someone else involved in your life. And if you are single on Valentines Day, use it as an excuse to get free candy and hang out with other single friends. Or if you are dating someone who isn't close by, celebrate your relationships with OTHER ppl you appreciate on that day that aren't far away. For example, I am having the best Valentines Day (week, really) of my life because I am finally taking advantage of it. This week I have gotten to enjoy candy sent to Gamma Phi for VDay, exchanged VDay cards and presents with Lauren because we decided to be each other's UGA valentines (And we did that during class, so that made it much funnier-it totally made me think back to elem school, only we were the only ppl in the Statistics in Psychology class who got presents), and I had dinner with my roommates tonight, plus an awesome cake that I made-sorry, I'm proud of it. hehe My roomies gave me Valentines (I made the meal), and my mom got me a present that I get this weekend and she and dad sent me a card. My sister sent me VDay stuff to my house-so I get it this weekend too, and Tom and I are celebrating VDay on Friday-dinner and presents. I also sent out Valentines to all my siblings+Ben+April, and Esther and I talked today on the phone to tell each other Happy Valentines Day, and that was a great present because I miss her so much. I don't see her often since she is at FSU. So there ya go-Hallmark isn't the only thing that can profit from Valentines Day-it's all in the attitude and the plans you make. So next year, loves, make sure you have some fun.
Love,
Megs
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[[["it's 'you don't go to school with your significant other awareness day' for me 5 days a week and 9 months a year." --Meghan]]]
i would also like to add that its "you live over 400 miles away from your significant other awareness day" for me 7 days a week and 12 months a year.
--Kristen
preach it meghan....preach it.
AMEN...preach it sister =) James was on call last night....our FIRST married Valentines Day....so he spent the entire night at the hospital after spending the entire day working. Did I cry about it? Of course not. I didn't even feel bad about it. I'd rather be thankful that I get to see him at all than complain about how I don't get to see him. PLUS I spent my first 19 Valentines Days with NO boyfriend at all while all my girls had boyfriends. So to all the people who try to poo poo the whole idea of celebrating love for one day each year, I will quote what James said when one of his friends asked him whether he was disappointed about being on call during Valentines Day.
"EVERY day is Valentines Day for us, and that's how it should be."
This blog pretty much pissed me off a lot. There are a lot of people in this world who have boyfriends and girlfriends and they love valentines day. There are other people in this world who do not have boyfriends or girlfriends, and its not because they dont want one, it is because maybe they cant find one right now. For these people that are searching for that person Valentines is a pretty sucky day. I really could care less about valentines day whether i have a girlfriend or not. I do think it is a stupid holiday. If you are dating or going out with someone or married or whatever, why must you have one single day, that is the day to show your affection. From what i know or the way i am going to live my life, everyday should be a day that you show your girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse how you feel and how much you love them. What is the point of having one certain day for this. It is just to single out those people who dont have a bf, gf, or spouse. Because EVERYday should be about showing your utmost affection towards your significant other. Not just one day, EVERYday. It makes single folks upset. Also, this........
......."I'm just saying that if your life stinks right now because you are single, it's most likely because you aren't content with something in your life. And you need to figure out what that is and fix it before you get someone else involved in your life."........
.......is crap that would really piss a single person off, believe me, i know. If someone is single it is not because of something that is wrong with them. If someones life stinks because they are single, that doesnt neccessarily mean that something is wrong with them. Maybe they just cant find someone because they cant find anyone who likes them. Huh, does that mean something is wrong with them?, because i dont think so. Thats the most bull i have ever heard. Someone who says that the reason for someones singleness is because of something that is wrong with themself, definitely is someone who hasnt really had a chance to be single. Of course Meghan that would be you, you havent been single since you were in like 9th grade. And really before then bf and gf were just something you did. So i really dont think you have the say so in why someone is single or not.
(this is not meant to be really mean though it could come across that way. I am just trying to get my feeling across about how i feel about this post)
Ben.....
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......."I'm just saying that if your life stinks right now because you are single, it's most likely because you aren't content with something in your life. And you need to figure out what that is and fix it before you get someone else involved in your life."........
.......is crap that would really piss a single person off, believe me, i know. If someone is single it is not because of something that is wrong with them. If someones life stinks because they are single, that doesnt neccessarily mean that something is wrong with them. Maybe they just cant find someone because they cant find anyone who likes them. Huh, does that mean something is wrong with them?, because i dont think so. Thats the most bull i have ever heard. Someone who says that the reason for someones singleness is because of something that is wrong with themself, definitely is someone who hasnt really had a chance to be single.
I totally agree that being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you. And that is NOT what I typed either. What I said is that if you are not content with your life, and you are also single, that chances are that the reason you are not happy with your life has nothing to do with your dating status but with some other thing. And it is better to find out what that is and fix it before dating someone. The reason I say that is that many people think that the way to fix their discontent is to throw themselves into something...food, work, RELATIONSHIPS...etc. And that isn't fair to the person you are involving in your life, it isn't fair to you, and it isn't fair to the relationship as a whole. In NO Way did I say that your life should suck because you aren't dating someone. Robert Lee, Tom, and I had a long talk about that a month or so ago...about how you can desire a relationship, but that if you can't be happy with your life w/o a relationship, then maybe you aren't ready to have a relationship. (you=a general person, not YOU specifically). Maybe you don't agree with me, and that's fine. But I would NEVER put down the quality of someone's life because they aren't dating someone at a given point in time. And I want you to understand that because I would especially NEVER want to insult YOU or YOUR life because I love and respect you very much and don't care whether or not you have a girlfriend outside of your desiring one, which DOES matter to me. So basically, you misunderstood what I was saying, and I am really sorry that I came across in a demeaning way.
Now, about the first part of what you said. Yeah, it's a cheesy holiday and I don't think ppl should go all out for it...unless they can afford to, which is great. I don't think it is pivotal to our National Calendar for the same reasons you mentioned-your relationship should go strong from day to day. But I seriously doubt that some person looked at the calendar and said...
There's not a lot going on in February...let's put a paper cut on all the singles' hearts and pour lemon juice on it. I think that it was created as a fun, and sorta cheesy day for people to appreciate those they love-EVEN if they aren't dating them. Hence I sent you a Valentine. Because I love you. Even though I date your brother. And it was fun for me to pick out stuff for you and my siblings and Tom and April and to talk to Esther on the phone-which we have done more of since- and even to send my parents and yours valentines day cards. I don't think that it doesn't make ppl aware they are single. I'm just saying that most ppl have someone they can hang out with or appreciate even if it's not a bf/gf situation. Like I said, I did that with girls at UGA. And I didn't send Tom much more than I sent you. It's just meant to be a fun day, and it isn't going away, so ppl shouldn't be so pessimistic- the world is out to bruise my heart about everything, and enjoy it for what they CAN get out of it.
That was all that my blog meant. Sorry if that offends you.
~Megs
Oh, and I am also not saying that you or anyone else is single because something is wrong with you/them. I didn't even remotely say that. Again, I guess I wasn't clear in what I said, because you totally misunderstood me. I know a lot of ppl are single bc they want to be, or bc they haven't found someone worth dating, or bc they haven't reached a point where they can or even want to date someone that they maybe do think is worth dating, or maybe they have feelings for someone but it just isn't the same way for the other person. I don't think that makes something "wrong" with you. And I didn't say that I thought that. And I wouldn't say it. The end.
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